- Consensual vs. Non-Consensual Relationships
- What is Sexual Violence
- What is Domestic Violence
- What is Dating Violence
- What is Stalking
- What is Sexual Assault
- Other Types of Sexual Misconduct
Impacts and Tips to Reduce Risk
- Bystander Intervention
- What is a Bystander
- Continuum of Behaviors
- Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
- Steps Toward Taking Action as a Bystander
- Forms of Bystander Action
School Responsibilities and Resources
- School's Responsibilities to Address Sexual Harassment and Violence
- Resources at TMCC
- If You Have Questions
- Additional Community Resources
Consensual vs. Non-Consensual Relationships
- One in which both parties are willing and agreeing participants.
- Past consent of sexual activity does not imply ongoing future consent.
- When someone is forced, coerced or manipulated into unwanted sexual activity without agreeing
- Consent cannot be obtained when someone is in fear, is a minor, incapacitated due to drugs or alcohol or has certain illness or disability
What is Sexual Violence
- Sexual violence is against the law and against NSHE and TMCC policy.
- Sexual violence is a crime that occurs in many forms.
- This violence can be committed by a current or former partner or spouse of the individual or a stranger.
- Sexual violence includes stalking, dating violence, domestic violence, sexual harassment, fondling, grabbing someone sexually, rape or sexual assault.
What is Domestic Violence
- Generally defined as a crime committed in the context of an intimate relationship. Intimate relationships can exist between those who have or had a dating relationship, spouses or former spouses, family members, household members, persons who have a child in common, or minor children.
- It is a crime that involves the use of power, coercion and violence to control another person. This includes the attempt to cause or causing of bodily injury or harm.
- It is often characterized as a pattern of escalating abuse in which one partner in the relationship controls the other through force, deprivation and/or threat of deprivation or violence.
What is Dating Violence
- Generally defined as violence committed by a person who is or has been in a social relationship of a romantic or intimate nature with the victim.
- The existence of such a relationship will be determined based on a consideration of the following factors:
- The length of the relationship
- The type of relationship
- The frequency of interaction between the persons involved in the relationship
What is Stalking
- Generally defined as a crime in which a series of intentional actions cause physical or psychological harm.
- It is a crime that involves a willful and malicious course of conduct intended to cause an individual to feel terrorized, frightened, intimidated, harassed or fearful for the immediate safety of a family or household member.
- This crime can be committed via electronic means of communication as well.
- Electronic means of communication include social networking or other type of websites, texts, emails, or any other similar means of communication that publishes, displays or distributes information in a manner that substantially increases the risk of harm or violence to the victim.
What is Sexual Assault
- Generally defined as a crime in which an offense classified as a forcible or non-forcible sex offense under the uniform crime reporting system of the Federal Bureau of Investigation.
- Under Nevada law, a person who subjects another person to sexual penetration, or who forces another person to make a sexual penetration on himself or herself or another, or on a beast, against the will of the victim or under conditions in which the perpetrator knows or should know that the victim is mentally or physically incapable of resisting or understanding the nature of his or her conduct, is guilty of sexual assault.
Other Types of Sexual Misconduct
The crime of "Open and Gross Lewdness" could apply to non-consensual sexual encounters that do not involve penetration.
- Acts of sexual touching like groping or fondling someone.
- Kissing or biting of someone's neck where the person being touched or kissed did not consent.
Reality of Sexual Violence on Campuses
- 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will be victims of sexual violence in their lifetime.
- 13% of women and 6% of men reported they experienced sexual coercion at some time in their lives.
- Over the course of an average 5-year college career, it is estimated that 25% of college women will become victims of sexual assault.
- Among college women, 9 in 10 victims of rape and sexual assault knew their offender.
- Among college women, only 12% of rapes were reported to law enforcement.
- 57% of rapes happen on dates. 32% of students will experience dating violence by a previous partner.
- Alcohol is the most common date rape drug. Use of alcohol by the victim or the perpetrator does not lessen the offender’s responsibility for the act of violence.
Impacts of Sexual Violence
Victims of Sexual Assault Are More Likely To
Tips to Reduce Your Risk
- If you consume alcohol, do so in moderation.
- Do not leave your beverage unattended or accept a drink from an open container.
- If you go on a date with someone you do not know very well, tell a close friend what your plans are.
- Always have extra money to get home. Have a plan for someone you can call if you need help.
- You have the right to say "No" -- even if you:
- First say "Yes," and then change your mind.
- Have had sex with this partner before.
- Have been kissing or "making out".
- Are wearing what is perceived to be "provocative" clothing.
- If you feel uncomfortable, scared or pressured, act quickly to end the situation. Say "Stop it!" and leave or call for help.
- When you go to a party, go with a group of friends. Arrive together, watch out for each other and leave together.
- Do not allow yourself to be isolated with a person you do not know or trust.
- Be aware of your surroundings at all times.
- Travel with a friend or in a group.
- Walk only in lighted areas after dark.
- Keep the doors to homes, apartments and cars locked.
If a bystander limits their intervention to a serious event, like a sexual assault, we have missed multiple opportunities along the way to say or do something before that situation escalates to that level.
What is a Bystander
- A bystander can be anyone: a friend, a teacher, a neighbor, a parent or even a stranger.
- Bystanders can play an important role in preventing or stopping sexual violence.
- The key is that when you see inappropriate sexual conduct that you do something.
Continuum of Behaviors
Healthy, age appropriate, mutually respectful and safe Mutually flirtatious and playful Age-inappropriate or non-mutual Harassment Sexually abusive and violent
When looking at all of the behaviors along this continuum, there are a number of ways to either say or do something in each category. There are also many ways to take action and there is no right answer.
Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
- Intensity and High Involvement
- Jealousy without reason
- Pressure for early commitment
- Frequent talk and argument about trust and betrayal
- Ingratiating manner when they want something
- Describing previous partners cheating
- Showing up unannounced or uninvited
- Few or no close friends
- Attachment Swings
Steps Toward Taking Action as a Bystander
- Notice the events along a continuum of actions.
- Consider whether the situation demands your action.
- Decide if you have a responsibility to act.
- Choose what form of assistance to use.
- Understand how to implement the choice safely.
Note: it is important to consider the consequences and your own safety. If there is immediate danger, call 911.
Forms of Bystander Action
Intervene to Stop the Behavior as it is Occurring
Ask the victim:
- "Do you need help?"
- "Is everything ok?"
- "Are you all right?"
- "Do you want me to call someone for you?"
- "What can I do to help you?"
- "Do you want me to talk to so-and-so for you?"
- "Should I call the police?"
Speak to the offender:
- "What you said earlier really bothered me."
- "I don’t like what you did."
- "I wonder if you realize how that comes across."
- "How would you feel if someone did that to your sister/brother/child?"
Encourage the Victim to Seek Help from Family, Professionals or Law Enforcement
Examples of what to say:
- "You might want to talk to the police about his/her behavior for your own safety."
- "I know a counselor you can talk to about this."
- "Do your parents know how he/she is treating you?"
- "Here is the number you can call for help."
Report the Incident Yourself
- Call the police and report the incident.
- Report it to a supervisor or an administrator.
- Report it to a counselor or faculty member.
School's Responsibilities to Address Sexual Harassment and Violence
It is the College's responsibility to respond promptly and effectively to address sexual harassment and violence.
- If a school knows or reasonably should know about sexual harassment or sexual violence that creates a hostile environment, the school must take immediate action to eliminate the sexual harassment or sexual violence, prevent its recurrence, and address its effects.
- Required even if a student or his or her parent does not want to file a complaint or does not request that the school take any action on the student’s behalf.
- A criminal investigation into allegations of sexual harassment or sexual violence does not relieve the school of its duty under Title IX to resolve complaints promptly and equitably.
Resources at TMCC
Reporting to Law Enforcement:
If you are the victim of sexual violence, you have the right to notify law enforcement. The TMCC Police Department has sworn police officers trained in the intake of sexual violence offenses who are here to help you.
Reporting to TMCC:
- TMCC's Human Resources Office.
- Speak to a TMCC Counselor.
- Contact the Student Conduct Office in RDMT 120, 775-673-7270.
- TMCC Administration, Faculty and Staff can also be of help.
Even if you do not want to report the incident to anyone, it is important to get a medical exam to make sure you are all right. Please seek medical attention if you have been the victim of sexual violence.
If you have questions:
- University Police Services
RDMT 243, Dandini Campus
- TMCC Human Resources Office
SIER LIB 200, Dandini Campus
- TMCC Counselors
RDMT 325, Dandini Campus
Additional Community Resources
- Sexual Assault Support Services at the Crisis Call Center
24-hour hotline: 1-800-992-5757 or 775-784-8090
- Office of Women's Health, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
Information and resources
- Safe Embrace Domestic Violence Intervention
Emergency shelter and resources: 775-322-3466
- Domestic Violence Resource Center (formerly known as the Committee to Aid Abused Women (CAAW))